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I’m pretty tired of hearing the “sin is sin” platitude thrown around as an excuse for equating consensual adult relationships that one doesn’t approve of with sex crimes.

And by tired I mean completely sick of.  It needs to end.

You don’t marry a gender; you marry a person. And yet the majority of Christian marriage books dole out advice based on gender stereotypes: “men need adventure,” “women need security,” “men like quiet time,” “women process verbally,” “men crave respect and control,” “women crave love and emotional intimacy,” “men are like microwaves,” “women are like ovens.” But even before we got married, Dan and I realized that just as often as we fit these generalities, we don’t. Dan knows I’d prefer tickets to a football game over a nice piece of jewelry and that too much security and not enough adventure leaves me feeling bored. I know that Dan is better at nurturing friendships than I am and thrives creatively when he has the chance to collaborate with other people.

So for all of this talk of men being “wired” one way and women being “wired” another, we have found, as Micah Murray puts it, that “wires are for robots.” We are human beings, and we relate to one another better when we stop expecting the other person to behave in a prescribed, programmed way but instead talk openly with one another about our actual desires, preferences, hopes, and expectations.

—Rachel Held Evans, 10 Marriage Reality Checks (via thehollowinyourchest)

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You see, there are still faint glimmers of civilization left in this barbaric slaughterhouse that was once known as humanity. Indeed that’s what we provide in our own modest, humble, insignificant… oh, fuck it.

- M. Gustave

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If you block off legal avenues for desperate [immigrants], they will find illegal ones. Even a huge expansion in the border enforcement has failed to change that elemental reality. The surge of kids is a logistical and humanitarian challenge, but not a dangerous wave of pestilential predators and vermin. In pondering immigration policy, it’s sometimes useful to keep in mind that we are, after all, talking about human beings.

Woody Guthrie

—This Land is Your Land

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Woody Guthrie - This Land is Your Land (1944)
Woody Guthrie
from: ”My Dusty Road” Box Set / CD 1: Woody’s “Greatest” Hits

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I normally avoid Facebook on the 4th, but I’m going to start a day early this year because it’s mostly Matt Walsh and Hobby Lobby praise.

And you don’t kiss boys. Boys kiss you.

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Some of my opinions about the whole Hobby Lobby debacle

  • Contraception shouldn’t be controversial—it’s a good thing.  It should be as accessible as possible to as many women as possible.
  • I’m not sure the mandate included in Obamacare was the best way to go about getting that done.
  • Corporations are not people and therefore cannot be Christian.
  • I’m totally sympathetic to not liking that your money goes toward activities you have a strong moral opposition to.  See: war, the death penalty, mass incarceration, etc.
  • I’d like to see more Christians speak up against those evils rather than continuing to freak out over people having sex they don’t approve of.  Your religious beliefs apply to you and you alone.
  • I wish people wouldn’t base their opinions about contraception on fear-based falsehoods that are meant to discourage people from having the aforementioned unapproved sex. (i.e. the morning after pill causes abortions).
Beach Boys

—Wouldn't It Be Nice

Wouldn’t it be nice if we were older?
Then we wouldn’t have to wait so long;

And wouldn’t it be nice to live together,
In the kind of world where we belong?

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I just saw this post about ‘the best and the brightest’ not going into teaching so of course the education system is messed up or some inane malarkey like that.

I have two cousins and a sister who are teachers.  They’re all whip-smart and did incredibly well in a top-notch education program.  I have a couple of good friends who are teachers as well and all of these people work their butts off to help give kids a quality education.  They care about them so much.

I know there are serious flaws in the U.S. education system but don’t go blaming it on teachers not being smart enough.  I get that libertarians have to complain about all things government, but at least know what you’re talking about, and try to aim your disdain at the right people next time.

I also wanted to be a teacher for pretty much my entire life until three years ago, so this stupid idea particularly irks me.

  • I despise the yearly reminders and posts about modesty that pop up every summer.  Men who view me as a piece of meat while I’m wearing a bikini view me as such when I’m wearing work-out clothes, business attire, whatever.  And that is their issue, not mine.
  • I understand the idea of wanting to save something for one’s wedding night, but waiting to have your first kiss at the altar and then going straight to having sex a few hours later?  That sounds horrifying.  I’m glad that despite how conservative and religious they are, my parents never bought into the whole courtship thing and just let me date who I wanted.  You know, that whole process of getting to know someone before you decide whether or not you want to marry them.